Make it a rule to hold a dialogue with themselves in their free time (in the subway, the bus, at the bus stop, at bedtime), to know exactly the specifics of his experiences as a result of certain situations.
determine for themselves the events, situations and people that you can provoke unwanted behavior.
If possible, play starring with family or friends this scene, in which you can lose control of their words or actions.
Select alternative tactics behavior.This may be a tacit response to a provocateur or intentionally kind and nice treatment with the aim of discouraging.Lose a model reaction.
Cultivate a strong will.Start with minor cases, which need to make an effort.Try
to get rid of the small but old habits.For example, give the month of roasted seeds, if you are a lover eat them at leisure.
Look at what is happening from a different angle.When something yourself too forbid usually want it even more.Try to come to the conclusion that it is not so much interested in you, or that it does not concern you.Then, stay calm and self-controlled man, it will be easier.
Do not hold back emotions and experiences that are adequate to the situation.But learn to filter out what is not productive at this time, and that has no logic and benefits in this situation.
As you know, philosophers believe that the one who owns the information - owns the world.Also, it is believed that overcame itself, the other wins.So, try to look around you and take the historical identity and learn their ways to manage them. learn self-control is possible, but efforts should be made in the knowledge of himself, and, overcoming the weakness of the spirit, to take control of the destiny and contribute to her own hands.After all, people govern themselves - it's a winner.
Tip 2: How not to break
There are moments when everything around annoying.Man breaks down to other people, even loved ones, and then comes the realization and regret for what he did.We have to learn to restrain their emotions.
When you feel that you are about to "explode", do not hurry to say anything.Do not pause too much, and keep quiet.After a moment you will realize that it was the right decision.
the moment of fury enter a deep breath and hold your breath.Then exhale slowly.Within a minute, breathe deeply - it will calm you.At the same time come up with a calm and balanced answer.
Introduce yourself from the moment when the pluck.Features distorted quite unpleasant expression.Keep yourself in their hands, so as not to appear in this way in front of others.
Hit mind of his companion or bring him to some absurd situations.It is better to laugh than scream at the person.
shut out an opponent virtual wall and imagine that you are in a quiet sheltered spot.Imagine that you are lying on the beach, you hear the sound of waves, or walk along the forest glade.Think of a place where you felt pleasant emotions.
If you are indoors, move to fresh air.Breathe deeply and calmly while a walk.You can rinse your face with cool water - it will cool your ardor.
Promise yourself that you will not fall apart at the first occasion.Start tomorrow.Hold on just a couple of times and gradually get used to the calm problem-solving.Always analyze a complex situation, to understand what will help you to hold back next time.
Give emotions output via exercise.You can work out, go to the pool or fitness club, arrange daily jog.If you want, go work in the garden.Not only do you become calmer, but the output will give the accumulated surplus of energy.
Try to understand that your partner - also a man and has a right to express their thoughts and assess the world around us and the people of his principle.And it is not necessary that his opinion coincides with your point of view.This is not an excuse to stall.Do not cut yourself off completely from such people, even if you find it hard to communicate with them.